Discovering what love is one day at a time
I ran across something somebody wrote that said if you don’t like the way a standard is written reinterpret it for yourself…to your liking, for your comfort. Honestly, after reading this persons blog, I am having a hard time believing he wasn’t serious. Which got me to thinking about life…and if there is any area in my life that I lean that way.
The first thing that comes to mind for me is the speed limit…and how if I am on my road and almost home I catch my speedometer increasing. It does not have the ability to do that on its own… “but does it really matter…you are almost home…its late…no one else can see you speeding…there is no one else on the road…just this one time…” are some of the thoughts that cross my mind…But the truth is the speed limit is there for a reason, and when the UPS truck, or the Fed/Ex truck comes barreling down our road..I get upset. Thankful for the little voice in the backseat that states, “feels like we sped up, Mom,” so I can slow down ,and for when I glance at the speedometer, so that I can make the choice to yield, rather than accelerating and choosing to please myself.
Should the standard be reinterpreted for my comfort?
Humility yields to authority and produces thankfulness while arrogance cultivates self-pleasing excuses and entitlement.
So it got me to thinking am I a People pleaser, a ME-me pleaser or a God pleaser?
Definitely if the standards change for my comfort, I am living only to please myself. That is a choice to be outright rebellious, choosing sin. But what if I bend the standard to avoid the truth for someone else…then I am an “other” People pleaser….
If either one of those is happening in my life, I am not subjecting that area of my life unto the rule and reign of the Standard Maker. I am not reverencing the One who makes it possible for me to breathe every day. And I have to beg the question is Jesus the King in this area in my life…or am I walking in arrogance (sin)?
And honestly, I do not want to live to please myself, nor just to please others. There are consequences when we live life not wanting to please God.
Truly loving people means that sometimes when you tell the truth you will rock the boat.
When you tell the truth, you are not always going to be right. You may not have submitted your emotions, your way of thinking feeling and deciding under the authority of Jesus Christ. You have the choice to expose what is really going on in your heart… (Indecent exposure)… and it may be uncomfortable for you. (VULNERABILITY) The truth is, with God as our Father, we can be naked emotionally and unashamed. This is where the rubber meets the road. This is where you either believe that God is in charge of your reputation or not….whether He is for you and not against you. This is where you decide if you are going to love God with your whole heart, mind, soul and strength, and if you are going to love your neighbor as you love yourself. This is where real friendship is born, or hypocrisy blooms. Where hearts are set free or pretense looms. This is either a place of unity, or a place of discord.
Telling the truth is not just for others benefit…it is for ours... Love your neighbor as you love yourself. If you are not being honest with your own stuff, how can you be honest with others?
Should the standard be reinterpreted for another’s comfort?”
I have been married to my wonderful husband for 22 years. We have two boys ages 18 and 13.. This blog is somewhat of a journal and attempt for me to keep a purposeful perspective on life as a whole.